The Driver's Seat- The Chariot

In this episode, Nicole and Rootz discuss The Chariot and how this archetype plays out in our journey here on earth. They discuss the concept of "being in the driver's seat of your life" and share personal stories of when they were in the passenger seat, allowing others to drive for them. They share tips and strategies to recognize when this is happening and how to take back the wheel. 

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Hi. And welcome back to navigating your story with the taro archetypes. In this episode roots and I will be discussing the chariot. And the archetype of being in the driver's seat. Of your life. For any of you that are new to taro. The chariot is the seventh card. And comes after the lovers. In the major Arcana. In our discussion. Roots and I discussed. The concept of taking back. The wheel of your life. We share personal stories on how we allowed others to drive our lives. And what we did. To take back. The wheel. I hope you find comfort in our personal stories. Of experiencing the chariot archetype. So pour yourself a cup of tea. Or a glass of wine. As you join us. For our discussion. Where would we like to begin? When we talk about the chariot archetype, I'm like, there's so many places to start. You know what I think of the chariot it's like. Where are we going? Where are you going? And most importantly, who is leading, are you leading yourself or somebody else leading you? So I think that's where I want to start. I think that's a great place to start. And I think you just said all three things in one sentence, like all of our points, where are you headed? Who is driving that chair yet? Who is driving your car? all those things are so important when this archetype is showing up in your life. And if any of you work with tarot, it's when this card is showing up in your life. Like if you keep pulling this card, well, that's the lesson. So why don't we start with the driver's seat? That would be a really great place to start. The chariot comes with energy determination in moving forward. Then there's the question? What direction are you moving forward in? Are you moving forward in your path or are you having someone else drive your car and you're moving in their path? Exactly, exactly. Sometimes we'll have that job where we're doing the things because somebody else is telling us to not because we're inspired too, even if it's counter what we know we should be doing, that sometimes can pop up in the chariot energy. If we're going to focus first on who is driving your car, we first talk about, in life who has been influential in driving your car, or who are the people that we. Willingly or unwillingly, give them art keys and let them drive the car for us. So that's usually like our parents are, our loved ones. Sometimes our people in our partnerships allow them to be the one who steers. It can be literally anyone, anyone who we accept as part of our life can be the one who's all of a sudden leading us along. And it's just a matter of yeah. Why? Yeah, it is true. It really can be anyone. I think when we're young, our parents really do drive our car, because. That's just what parents do. They think they know what's best for you. They have their hopes and dreams for you. And it's just so sad because, I understand as like a parent role, they need to, train you for this world and society, but it is tough too, because at the same time parents might have dream accomplished. So they might take your car and say, this is what you need to do. Rather than allowing you to figure out what's right for you. That always was a tough one for me, because back to being a people, pleaser there comes a time in your life where you have to pause and be like, did I want it. Or did my parents dream this for me, and I've gotten that confused with what I want. Right. That is how a lot of us get pre-programmed and then it takes time to really step back and untwist ourselves up from where everybody else's dreams and desires that they may have for us. And instead recognizing is this what I want? Is this what I want to be experiencing? You know, I mean, when you said that earlier, I immediately thought of the football player who doesn't like football, but is made to play football because dad didn't make the championship. So dad's trying to get you to be the championship king. There's all types of those storylines. But then that kid's like, bro, I really just wanted to be a ballerina. I know like why, you know. I think on the parent part, we need to start reflecting and be like, is this mine for them? This is something that I'm going to say, cause I know some parents are going to be out there and they're gonna be like, well, I try. And it's one of those things that as a non-parent we can look at people who are parents and we can be like, well, I can see how that didn't work, but they're like, well, you're not in here 24 7. Right. Cause I know from talking to a bunch of parents that their brain gets scrambled because now they're trying to take care of this kid as much as they possibly can all the time. Like they don't get a break. It's different when you're in the shoes. I totally agree with that. As the chariot driver. I am the one who decides do I take a left or do I take a right? I mean, I dated a partner for five years and we had two vehicles, but they were both his right. For five years, I never actually had my own car. It was very weird. I was like, how did that work out? Anywhere we went, it was him. That was driving. Not me how the bills got paid was because he said that they could be paid. And not me, even though I was the one who was managing all the bills, it was very weird. But it's just one of those things, now at this stage in my life, I'm like, huh, no, that didn't work for. It's great to be at the space, but it's first, you have to recognize how you're not being the driver. And that actually gives you the power to then step into being the driver. That's that's where I was trying to go with that. Okay. How does someone recognize when they're not driving their car? So whenever you're feeling lack of power, or lack of ease, like, if you don't have the ability to do something or you're feeling forced into doing something, those would be moments when you start to recognize, oh, maybe I'm not the chariot driver of this. anytime there's a lack of power or freedom of self-expression, are you really empowered in this small. And it's fun because the next card is all about courage, power, and strength. So it's funny that we have to discover that almost right now. We having to figure out how to be the steerer in our path. For me, how I notice when I'm giving my power away, when I'm allowing someone else to dictate my life, I feel like sometimes my environment becomes a mismatch to my actual soul. So for instance, say my parents said, oh, like, you need to date someone like this growing up, or you need to be more like this when you're doing this, or you need to go here or, you know, a friend. You know, anyone who's trying to take the wheel of your life, suggest something, and then you follow it. I find I'll notice like, say I stay in a job because someone else said I should, I'll notice that I'm not happy. I'll notice that like my soul really isn't singing. It does like what you said roots. It does feel very forced. So things just aren't flowing as easy when I'm letting someone else say what I should do. That's a great place to start noticing, even in your language, the show, the sheds are all about someone else driving your car. So if. You're saying, oh, I should stay in this job or I should be dating this person. Or, I should, I don't know, play this sport because my parents want me to play this sport or because my boyfriend or girlfriend want me to do this should is a huge indicator. Someone else is driving that chariot for you. And it's not you. And should even just saying, should you can feel the, forcing this. Yeah. The way the weight, you can feel the weight. So then when you do the sheds and it doesn't align with your soul, I always feel a mismatch. It honestly comes with sadness for me. All of a sudden my environment is not really mirroring my son. That's when I pause. And I'm like, wait a second. Whose dream was this? And then I'm going to tell everyone, if you just close your eyes and visualize just a thread is think of the universe like a woven fabric. So you're sat at your job, close your eyes and just ask who is connected to this job for me? And you just watch that thread. It's so surprising who pops up sometimes you'll see the thread, link to, I don't know, your dad who said, this is a job that, you'll get good money and you want to have good money type of thing. I love that you brought up the sheds because I've been saying for years, like don't shit all over my friend, because a friend said that to me, it's like, don't shit all over yourself. And the way you said that, the way you brought that up also brought me to the reflection of how, even in the sheds, it's from somebody else who told you, that's how you should do something. So it's like all over it. Even if they have long sentence paths, you're still conscripted to how somebody else should be. So my mom, whenever her mom would come visit us. My mom always made sure the house was immaculate because. This woman would come in and the smallest thing was dirty she would scoff and then leave, the woman would drive 45 minutes to come over and scoff at my mother. And I'm just like, anyway, that just goes to say world's about my grandmother, not my mom, because we would sit there and be cleaning for like six, seven hours. And then this woman would drive 45 minutes, come visit for five minutes and then leave because it wasn't clean enough for her. Oh my gosh. That's your mom making the house pleasing for your grandma and it's not even your grandma's house. So the sheds are all there. Right. Yeah, we should do this to make sure mom's happy. And then, you know, forced to clean up and take care of everything because it'll help make mom feel better to help make grandmother feel better. And then grandmother doesn't even give a fuck. Sorry. And, why did we go through all that effort? So eventually we just stopped. We just let her come over. She said once, why is it such a mess? It's like, last time we spent seven hours cleaning, you thought it was a mess. Why are we going to care now? It's not like we have to dirty home, but it was the extra deep cleaning that we did for whenever she was there. That's the spring cleaning that everybody should do. Right. Should do you should spring clean? I mean, there's general, like these are really good rituals to do, and then there's like, Hanging in there, but things I don't know. So you're just like, why am I doing this? So let's just look at that for a moment, because that was a great example. That was not your grandma's home. It was your mom's home and your mom was letting grandma drive how she should have her house, her house. Yeah. Right. And I do this all the time, all the time. And, you know, I wish it was as easy as like a, a little alarm will go off when you're trying to please someone else. So we knew, ah, shut alarm shit alarm. Yeah. Right. We just started doing it and doing it and then we don't even realize it til we pause. Right. And a lot of times it's burnt out. Sometimes we're burnt out and we're like, who, why am I so burnt out? Oh, because we're trying to please somebody else. Not even ourselves. Yeah. I'm just rinsing my hand. Sorry. Okay. You're so observant. I'm like, are you, are you right here watching me watch oh, it is so funny. Okay. So we know to watch out for this show, we know that if we do allow people to drive our cars, that we ended up in a place that's not authentic to us. I want to just take a moment and just say through my meditation and connecting with the council of light, they've always mentioned how we all come here to have our own experience. And I've wrote about this before about, there is no right or wrong, it's just what works for you. Part of that chariot energy if you follow your truth, not someone else's truth. If you follow your truth and I'm even talking about you follow your truth with your. With the way you want to date, who you want to date, like all areas of your life. If you follow your truth, it will drive you to your correct path that fits you. And that works with you. And that's why we're here. We're here to discover ourselves. Isn't that so interesting to think about roots that like we're here to actually create and just discover ourselves and who we are. Yeah. I mean, it's funny you say that. Cause that's like literally the lesson that I've been learning all week. I'm like, who am I in this now? What is it that I want? What is it that I want to experience myself as? Who do I experience myself as, you know, all these questions on that loop. And it's like, once I recognized that it was possible to not be caught up in anything other than what I want to get caught up in wow. Freedom, freedom. It goes back to that freedom. And we have moments where we're like, okay, well, you know, this person has been here before this person has done this before. So I really should do what they say. And yeah, people can always give advice and suggest things, but it's really up to you to follow what feels right for you because that's the beautiful thing. So I work in a school and have a lot of. The today was their last day. And they're all really nervous because they're heading into the unknown. Who will I be? Will I be successful? What will my career be? I can't figure it out. That's what they'll tell me. And I always say like, turn within, go back to yourself. What, what feels right for you? Because if you listen to what feels right for you, that's your compass. You will correctly drive your path. Sometimes in those moments where we're scared and we're like, I don't know what to do. And we asked for advice from someone who's maybe done it and was successful. Yeah, they, they did do it. They were successful, but you will be too. And what worked for them probably won't work for you because you guys are different people. Everyone has. So I was just reading a book called the super attractor. It's about manifestation and the author is, Gabrielle Bernstein and she was very interesting. She talked about manifestation and discussed how even when you're going through a really hard time, you align with joy, meaning. Like, we've all gone through some really hard times. And when we look back, we're like, oh my God, that was like a really freaking hard time. But there's always some part of it that you still had fun maybe during that really hard time, or there was a moment where you were laughing with your friends and maybe laughing about how tough of a time it wasn't. And she discussed how, when we aligned with joy, even through really hard times, we actually become these really beautiful manifesters and start attracting things to our lives that we want. A great example, when my husband's dad passed away, that was like a really tough time. We were doing the funeral, we were with the family members and all of that stuff, but still till today, and it's been three years, we look back and we laugh at all of the crazy moments that happened during. That week of the father passing and then doing the funeral and all that stuff. We have moments where we were reading for his dad to pass in the ICU and his aunt was weeping and somehow like fell off the chair. We almost had to like call help, for her just cause she fell off the chair. And his uncle took us out for dinner and the whole family and we just kept ordering like bottles and bottles of wine. We carried him home and he like stuck his head out of the window being like, hello, as we walked by and we were all just laughing and we still laugh about that today. So, it's really important to align with joy and what lights you up, it's a huge, secret to, manifesting and following your truth in your path is really aligning no matter what you're going through with joy of like, oh, this was funny today, or, oh, this was really nice. And keep following that, like keep following what brings you happiness, keep driving your card towards that. It's this big illusion that we have as humans in the society that to be successful or to be something we have to put in suffering. And actually we don't, we can't drive our car towards happiness. We can drive our car towards joy and I give everyone permission and this audience to do that, we can do that. we don't have to suffer all the time. Do you have any particular tips and tricks as to how you would like to suggest that people do follow their joy? Okay. Yeah. Okay. I have a few tips. Well, I guess roots, my only tips are going to come from just stories, personal stories. So I'll share a personal story of how to align with joy. At the beginning of the year, I had to get an MRI because I was getting headaches. And I remember like, let me just share this, everyone. We can all say, we want to align with align with joy. But I do want to just acknowledge that it's tough. Sometimes we really do get hit and we get hit hard and we can get stuck in the victim mindset of why is this happening to me? You know? And when we do this. I honor when you're stuck there, it's a little tough to get out of it, but I put a button there I'm with you during, when I had to get my MRI done. And you know, I'm trying to figure out how to, have a child. And, I'm like, okay, but now I gotta get this MRI. And what if this happens and why me? Why me? I, all of a sudden surrendered and I started playing and I talked about it before I play this game to myself when I'm going through a really tough time. Every night before I go to bed, I start to align with gratitude and go, okay, well, what, in this day, Nicole named three things in the state that you really enjoyed. And I get creative sometimes. Cause sometimes they're really tough days, so I have to get creative. But I like allowing myself the three, because it helps me really look and go, you know what? It was a really tough day, but that moment that I sat at my window on my couch and the sun was shining on me. I really enjoyed that. So I picked three things a day and I started doing that when I knew I had to get an MRI done. So I started playing that game again and it really gave me more joy. It gave me more resilience. So when I showed up for my MRI, I've never had one before and I'm claustrophobic too. So I had an open MRI, which is a lot better, but I made it fun. I definitely took a Xanax because I am claustrophobic and I was really nervous. So the doctors told me to take one. It felt like I had maybe a glass of wine before I went in. And then I looked for. Angels. And that sounds kind of interesting, but I surrender to the universe and I said, even though I'm going through this tough time, send me angels, or let me feel that angelic energy. So I just feel held by the universe. So I showed up to my MRI with my husband and, the lady at the front desk, she was so nice. And I'm like, freaking out. I'm like, oh my God, I'm so nervous about this. And she's like, oh, I can tell she's like, are you, claustrophobic? And I was like, yeah, it was like, I took a Xanax. Like I'm kind of nervous. She goes, okay, you're gonna put a, I cover over your eyes right away. She's like, it works every time for people who are nervous. And then she's like, we'll give you a warm blanket and just trust me. It's. Going to be absolutely fine. And I felt so held. So then I get the warm blanket on, I put the iron mask on, like they recommended and I got a tele routes that MRI was like probably the most relaxing experience in my life. She had me write a review after, and I was like, I felt like I went to the spot, but here's my next point. What I also did, as I said to my husband, let's go out to breakfast. I'm really nervous about doing this thing. So let's bring some joy in. I really want to go out to breakfast after, at this place, just to celebrate that I did something that I was afraid to do. And so I brought more joy in with that. So that would be my tips, play my game three things a day before bedtime, because you want to go to sleep, aligning with gratitude. It really sets you up for good day next day. And then when you have to do things that you don't really enjoy, like say your job and you, the other job hasn't showed up yet. Do something in that job to just have a little fun, get a coffee for yourself at Starbucks and look forward to the coffee. Do you get what I'm saying? So it's like the attitude of gratitude is what you're encouraging here. Right? And it's like, you know, finding small things each and every day that you can be excited for. You know, I'm excited when I spend time to, take care of my space, just making my bed in the morning, having water, preparing coffee for myself. And then I do this fun practice where it's like, I prepare stuff for my future self. And it's like means loving my future. Me. So it's like, yeah. I'll prepare my coffee or I'll prepare overnight oats or I'll do meal prepping or something like that. I'm loving my future me because I'm taking care of it right now. When I know that I won't necessarily always have enough time to do. Certain things like Thursday, I'm literally on calls from 9:00 AM till 10:00 PM. And like maybe, an hour or two here or there throughout the day are not busy, but like, that's it. So when I know that I have a day like that coming up, I just go ahead and take time to prepare for myself. It's like, Like loving myself so that I can be able to breathe and it be an easy day. I'm not having to rush and like make coffee or, and brush and make food because I already have it prepared. That's one of the ways that I've learned to create a life that I enjoy, but also just being present at the contrast and knowing that things can change on a dime. From your story, I think a huge piece of driving your own car. Is loving yourself enough to surround yourself with everything that makes you happy, to love yourself enough, to give yourself that self care. Like you said, like, you know, you set yourself up with the coffee, you set yourself up with like a beautiful meal because you love yourself. And maybe to help us take back the wheel is to love ourselves enough to go. We manifest the life that we want. It's a manifest the life we want. I deserve to drive my car to whatever path I feel is good for me. I think self-love is like a huge piece to taking back the wheel. Yeah. Absolutely. Why not? sometimes we focus so much on loving and taking care of everyone else that we forget to take care of ourself. And I think that's the biggest part that a lot of people forget is that if our cup is empty, we can't support another. But then it gets to the point that sometimes we start helping people and then we keep helping people. And then we forget that our cup is empty, it's running out. But then it gets the funding point where it's like the balance, because like, I know that as I fill other's cups up, my cup gets fuller too. It's like a dance. Absolutely, it's a dance. And, you know, I was just, I thought of something when you were saying that, we need to fill our cup up. Right. And so taking care of other people, sometimes when we do something that someone else wants us to do, like say, be back to your football, you know, story of like, my dad wanted me to be the football player. So I did it. I am the football player. I was the captain of my high school, varsity team or whatever. Right. Even when you're doing that, ask yourself, are you doing that to make your dad feel better or are you doing that to make yourself feel better? Does that make sense? Oh, it totally does. And then there's the flip side as well. It's like, am I only doing this? Because I know that if I don't, I'll have to deal with the negative repercussions and that's something that a lot of parents don't recognize that they really do. That's what we're all here working on healing through is all the different wounds that we got created with. But here's the other thing. And I want to stress this really hard. We chose the experience that we got, including, the upset, the unpleasantness, all of that. We chose that before we came here. Just know that you get to now pick a different path. That's the entire point of the chariot is like, okay, we weren't taking care of it to begin with, but now we can. And so what does that look like? I mean, if we go to certain religions, they say, you know, like surrender and give it to God. Well, a lot of people are like, well, what does that mean? How do I do that? And it's like, here's my problem. Do I know exactly how to fix it? No. Okay. Well, I'm going to give this to somebody else who can that's infinite. I don't have to know all the answers. If you're caught up in the, how's it going to happen? That's not, what's important. When you just go, I don't know anymore, surrendering is just such a beautiful thing because then you allow the universal hold you. Yeah. But we have to just ask. Okay. So just fun fact for everyone. our dream time is really important. If you're here listening, you're probably interested in all of that stuff. You probably already know that dreams are really important. They can show us, subconsciously what is going on in our life. Our guides can send us messages through our dreams. Something that's been very helpful for me is I did get a dream book a few years ago and I got the dream book and I said to my guys, I'm like, okay, this is going to be the book that I will look at when I want to figure out what something means. So I said, if you're showing me something in my dreams, You know, any kind of object or like any type of story you, my dream, I go, just so you know, this will be the book I'm looking at. We had a little bit of an agreement that was good. One thing I noticed is in my dream book that I go to is cars are symbolic of one's own personal power, which routes. And I have been talking a lot about tonight, is that they do represent our power and where we are driving it. If you ever have a dream about a car and you dream that your driving the car, well, that's a good indication that your spirit guides or the universe, or your subconscious is telling you that you are owning your past. But if you have a dream where someone else is taking you for a ride, that actually is a sign that you're giving away your power it's such a great way your guides communicate with you. Just like talk to them in your head right now and just say, Hey guys, if I'm dreaming about a car this is what it's going to mean. It's going to mean my personal power. And I have a dream with someone else driving, then I'll know you're telling me I'm giving away my power. And if I have a dream that I'm driving it well, then I know that I'm doing okay. And then I'm owning this and I'm owning my power right now. Some other things to pay attention to in your dreams when cars are showing up is what direction you're going. So if you're in a dream and you're driving up a hill, then you're driving. In the right direction. If you're driving down a hill, it means you're going the wrong way. a lot of times in my dreams, I'm always driving down a hill. I'm like, oh my gosh, I like drive up a hill, then I'll go down the hill. And I'm like, okay. So you're telling me that I'm heading in the right direction with somethings, but then it just means reflect and see if there's any part of your life or you're just not heading in the right direction. And then pay attention to the color of the car. A white car can represent your connection to spirit and your spirituality. So that means that you're owning your spirituality right now and your belief system. Just some interesting things that you can take away from this and add to your own spiritual journey. That's so fun because I'm a vivid dreamer. I've been a vivid dreamer since I was like super, super young. Just hearing your reflection on what you found to be possible within dreams is cool. If it's from a book, you're telling your subconscious or super conscious Hey, this is the frequency that I can understand you through, speak to me through here, and then we can steer through it better together. So Marnie ride to us, in the chat saying that talking about the dream interpretation with the car. It reminded her of her childhood dream. She said that when, I was about seven, I dreamt that I was driving along a road with hedges. My sister was with me and I lost control in the hedge. Isn't that so fascinating. Isn't it crazy routes how we can remember dreams I used to have as children. Like there are those few dreams that I can just completely remember. You might've been seven years old, but they stay with you. Yeah. I mean, there's still just as relevant. I remember having all kinds of dreams when I was kids. And it's like, well, listen to them. What was the lesson of them? If you are someone who does, remember your dreams, then I just recommend like, Marnie, go get a dream book and just talk to your guys, go to a metaphysical store and look at a dream book and use your intuition to pick out which one feels right for you. Then just tell your guides. This is going to be the book that we communicate with. And they'll completely send you messages in your dreams. If you don't have a language for them to codify and really work with you through, they're gonna be like, um, okay, so how do I, how do I give you anything? Like, that's why for the longest time I would straight up get messages through, tarot cards. I would be talking to somebody and it would just be all of a sudden, boom, three of sorts. Yeah. That's exactly what this person is talking to me about. And then it would rapid fire, other cards to be like, this is where they're at and this is what they need to know. I'm like okay, cool. And then I'm like, here's a message from spirit. And they're going to be like, how did you know? Giving our spirit guides a system to speak through us is so important. If we look at the high priestess card, she's sitting there with her books in her hand, but she is in fact paying attention to her inner world. Because she has studied that she's able to receive this. Remember I told you routes that I wrote about my observation of when I'd actually drive my own car and how it can I just share that. Okay. So everyone in the audience, I had a really interesting, observation happened to me about a year ago. I was driving my car. So if anyone here, actually has their license and drives a car, we're not talking symbolically, we're not talking to your dreams. I'm actually talking about like literally driving my own car. I'm going to share just like my observation. And then what I took from it. Some are really cautious driver. I pretty much drive the speed limit. I get a little bit anxiety. I'm definitely one of those people. I getting shifts, if I go too fast, but that's another story you wanted to set the stage that I am a very cautious driver, because I noticed do you know sometimes when, you're leading the pack, so you say you're on a road and you're like the leader of the cars all behind you. When I'm in that position, I actually get very uncomfortable. being almost, I get really uncomfortable when I'm the one leading the cars behind me, I've come out about this before is I'm a people pleaser. So I'll start being like, okay, did, are they angry at me? Oh my God, I see a truck. Well, a truck likes to go faster than what I go. Okay. Just opening up about this. Wow. What I noticed when I'm leading the pack and I get to a red light. I there's always like a line right before the red light that you're supposed to stop before the line. Okay. It's total sentence. And since I'm such a cautious driver, you would think I would stop before that white line. When I see the red light and I always would go a little over it. And so I started asking myself, I'm like, why are you doing that? Like you try so cautiously anyways. Why do you not, do you wait to actually stop until you're over the white line? So then I'm like, okay, there's gotta be something to this. And here's the thing I realize that the reason I stopped over the white line was because I wanted to please the people behind me, in some weird way, I didn't want to stop. Abruptly. Like I wanted to see if like I could, maybe when it's turning yellow, I could like, see if I could get through it because I didn't want the person behind me to be upset that they missed the light. I know guys, none of you in here are my counselor. So don't worry. I talk about this with my counselor. But what I realized is that when I'm driving my car, it really was reflective of how I was driving my life. When I was in the leading position on that road, I was worrying about everyone else behind me and how they were doing. And I wouldn't stop at that white line and own my choice and own my power and saying, I'm making a decision to stop here. I know the light is about to turn red. I would go a little over because I just didn't want anyone to be upset with me about the decision I made. And so then I meditated. I talked to my counsel of life and I was like, what is this about? And I wrote a blog on it. Feel free to go to my website, um, wild and free healing.com about how we drive our car is really symbolic to, again, our personal power and how we drive our life. And me as a recovering people, pleaser I was like worrying about other people before me. So right now, think about like, how do you drive your car? Okay. So here's another thing. Sometimes some people speed because they want to make sure that they get somewhere on time because they don't want to let that person down. They're trying to fit so many things in one day, so many deadlines or places that they need to go to. So they're speeding to try to get to everything, that could really be symbolic of. You're a person who puts way too much on your plate. So driving the car, you can't even relax and enjoy just a simple trip because you're so stressed out about all the things that you've put on your plate. And that could actually be representative of you not having boundaries. if you're someone who has road rage, okay, don't worry if you do. There's no shame here, but that could also be really symbolic to how do you handle your anger? Road rage could really represent the, maybe you feel like other people are the reason why you're upset, but you're not really looking in the mirror, what you can do to make those changes type of thing. Oh, do we have a chat? Okay. someone just said, sounds like my son. When she drives, she stops on zebra crossings, even though people are really still far from them and has shown no intention of crossing. She's a nippy driver, otherwise, unless a bird or a butterfly flies across her path. And then she'll break. So funny. Thank you for sharing that. It's really interesting. And I had this huge epiphany that how we drive our car really could be reflective on how we're driving our life. So, just pay attention to that route. How do you drive your car? Um, well I have two options bat out of hell and this other side of me that I've like really started to pay attention to. Is the, am I in a rush? Right. Cause if you think about it, most of the time when you're driving like crazy, it's actually cause you feeling like there's some sense of rush. And I've gotten to be at this place where I recognize, like I'm no longer in a rush to get anywhere. I recognize this last week with, the 600 miles that I drove and if you drive in a rush, you're often burning more gas just because if you go into 90, you're only getting max 14 to 20 miles per gallon. But if you're driving at 70, you're still going to get there just in the same amount of time, pretty much. And you're getting 40 miles per gallon. I just recognize, am I really in a rush? And if so, what is the rush? And where's the rush coming from. You know, fundamentally you decide, just choose for yourself if there's anything even worth stressing about to the point where you're trying to drive like a bat outta hell, you know? Okay. So I have a question for you if my theory is correct. And everything's just theory if how we drive our car, kind of representative how we are currently driving our life. I say currently, because we can always change. If you said sometimes your Rushi driver, do you find in your own life, you try to just like check things off. All the time I'm in hurry to get things done in a and rushing to laughs. Now, uh, it's kind of funny when you think of, well, it's funny when you think about like the songs that encoders are, like the songs that we're then generating, right? So as I speak, so that's I create, and again, I got to recognize I'm like, is this the story that I want to tell? Is this the experience of reality that I want to be? And once I was able to be like, wow, I'm rushing myself for no reason. I promise you, my life has gotten easier because I'm more present with just myself. I'm not, I'm not trying to get anywhere. I'm not trying to get over on anyone. I'm not trying to do anything. I'm just trying to live a life. And live my life. Most importantly, it's like, you can live your life. I'm going to live my life. Your life doesn't impact my life. Dope. Let's go. Let's have fun. But if your life impacts my life, Ooh girl, you better watch out. She got shemale over here. Um, just the drama, just the drama. So you realize that you're trying to check off things really quickly. Yeah. I had been that person. Absolutely. And look, I'm being honest. Massive people pleaser. I say recovering because I have made so many strides. But yeah, we've all got something so take away. Perfect. Yeah. Right. All of it. I've passed my life exam. Okay. Yeah. I guess everyone just do some reflecting on how you're driving your actual car and then see how you're driving the vehicle of your own life. Right. Hopefully with an attitude of gratitude, just say yes, and then paying attention to the sheds. And if you hear a should, that's a huge indicator. You're giving your power away. You're letting someone else drive your car. You should give up your sheds. You should give up your sheds. Yeah. Oh, good. Was there anything else you would like to add? No, honestly. I mean, you know, normally we also try and share like something that happened from us this last week, but I'm like, it's literally been like three weeks and I'm like, the lessons have been compounding. And so for me, it literally just got to the point of, if you steer your ship of life with recognizing that you are the source of your life, everything starts to work out. Giving up the right to be a victim. That's that's been the other thing giving up the right to be a victim has completely shifted everything to, I used to live in the space where I'm always the victim and everything always happens to me. What happens if things are happening for me? I was told that I have to move my camper. And so I have, I have, yeah, I have a month to relocate and I got to be present with, well, this is what's. This is what they're wanting to do and steer the ship of their, part of their creation. And I happen to have had a great spot for a year. At first I was literally upset for like 12 hours. And then I was like, Hey, you know, I get the opportunity to be in this amazing space. I get to be around all these amazing people. And all I have to do is just to relocate where I'm camp, that isn't going to be a lot of effort. Yeah. But it also might not be many hands make light work. And you've created a lot of friends there. I bet you, people are going to help you out. I've had so many people that they're like, oh my God, if I'm here, just let me know. And I'm gonna get all the help that I need. I'm not worried anymore. But I vocalize, Hey, this is something that's stressing me out. And they're like, oh, okay, cool. Well, would my assistance be of benefit? And now I'm at this space a week later, right? It's the third I was told on like the 28th or something that I had to move and I'm totally fine. That's how we get to steer our ship. You get to discover if you want to be stuck in sadness, madness Meyer, or if you want to rise higher and just giving it up to God, being like, look, I don't know why you gave this lesson to me, what's up with it. And then I find out, oh, by the way, it's going to be storming in the area. And it's actually can be great benefit for me to move to this other camp spite because. It's going to be completely covered in trees and it's going to save me from hurricane damage. Oh, that's really cool. I'm literally being asked to move to where it's going to be safer. Okay. Thank you universe. Not everything is going to make sense when it first happens. It doesn't always make sense right away. It's later on when we look back, we're like, oh, you did have my back universe. You actually do it for me, our human minds can't understand that at the beginning. So we just have to trust. Well, everyone take care. We hope that you take back the wheel of your car and, you just follow your own path because that's why we're. Absolutely. Okay. So we'll see you on the next now. Yeah. See what the next time. Bye everyone. Thank you for listening to our episodes. We hope that it was healing and brought you an understanding of the chariot archetype in taro. Here are some takeaway questions to ask yourself. So you can relate this to your personal story. Are you currently in the driver's seat of your life? If not, who are you allowing to drive your car? Is there anything that you have been saying. You should do. That does not fulfill your soul. If you are ready. What would be a comfortable DB step? And taking back. You were power. And making decisions and choices. For yourself. If you like her podcast, please like us, or write a kind review. Both roots and I are taro readers. So, if you are interested in working with me, You can find. My offerings. At wild and free healing dot. Com. 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